Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

233

The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the relentlessly difficult, toxic--and often disturbing--people that host Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls Hijackals®.

She offers invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered in relationships with folks like those. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.

Many Hijackals have behaviors that are considered the same as those who are diagnosed as narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths, sociopaths, and histrionic personality disorder. These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now.

Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Recent Episodes

Episodes loading...

Recent Reviews

Bravouser1234

A great loss!

Dr. Shaler’s inspired wisdom help me so much. She will be greatly missed.
Tee Nic

Renewed Hope and Freedom . Thank you!

This podcast has been a complete blessing . After 10 years I’ve finally taken back my power and removed the blockage from my life and this podcast has given me so much education , insight and validation on who and what I have been dealing with all these years . It’s helped me to understand the manipulation and games and most important how to face it and stay firm on my decision to leave and live my life freely and peacefully . Thank you
Paula 144

5 Star Podcast

Excellent, thank you! I wish I had found you earlier but having gone through an intense and insane situation I see now what was happening to me, what a pawn I was being made into, and why I could never do enough no matter how much I did. Thank you for laying out the hijackal landscape so clearly and thoroughly and without explaining away the hijackals actions. So many podcasts want to talk about the hijackals trauma causing their behavior. I’ve heard it time and again. It’s sickening. But I’m with you—who cares! I didn’t break them, I don’t have to fix them.
solomonsebastian

Paint the sky pink

Thank you
imjusthereforthecatpix

Great!

Very helpful and bingeable podcast if your looking for easy to digest information.
kayyyyyy1

Nice pod

Helpful content for sure
dagodane

Thank you!!!! You are helping me so much!

Wow….I have “ awakened “ after being in a toxic marriage for 39 years with a Narcissist. This podcast along with my private Therapist are both significantly helping me to navigate my journey to personal freedom, happiness, and health. Thank you….thank you…thank you. You take a deeply complex subject matter and remove the fog to help me to see so clearly now what I failed to see for so many years! I am learning that one is never too old to seek joy and happiness, and to leave a Narcissist!
THLott

I’m so glad I found you!

I’ve just found your podcast today. You speak truth with clarity. I am married to a hijackel. After 20 painful years I finally left my marriage just last Friday (one day before my 65th birthday) with the help of my son. Once a professional Executive Banker, I’ve been beat down and broken to the point of having a lack of desire to live. With the help and assurance of my siblings and son/daughter in law, I will rebuild myself for the remainder of my life. Thank you.
Run away fast!

Am I wrong?

I enjoy listening to mental health podcasts. Normally they have plenty of good advice. But why is it she sounds as if she’s speaking from experience but still hurting?
asthmatc

This is my life

Maybe this doesn’t work for everyone, but this is the most useful and helpful podcast I’ve ever found. Every chapter describes the life that I’m living. Outstanding podcast.
sherrylouis

Thank you

You can’t imagine how much you’ve changed me!
michhoov

Grateful for this content

This content has helped me tremendously. I now have tools to recognize and name the tactics being thrown at me and I have become much more empowered to stand in my truth and to stand up for myself. Highly recommend subscribing to all content - a cost effective alternative to (and/or supplementation to) therapy. Thank you Dr. Shaler!
verbatimtatum

A strong voice of support

I’m grateful for the clear, strong messaging. So well articulated and valuable for anyone dealing with very difficult relationships.
1 annonymous

Resonates With Me

I happened upon this Podcast probably because of others I have listened to on this topic. I love her term “hijackles” and how she defines this type of person vs a healthy person. She is knowledgeable and understanding. You’ll be enlightened as you listen. Thanks! 🥰
JMarlo

Pretty Sad

You talk about financial abuse and then ask people to pay 97 for an hour? How much is it regularly? Just another kick in the teeth to women and men that desperately need help from someone who understands... but literally doesn’t care. It’s sad.
Shaler Fan

Dr. Shaler

Dr. Shaler is an exceptional psychologist as well as a genuine person who shares her life and her knowledge to reach many. I have gain immense insights from her. I probably have listened to over 50 podcasts and taken notes. Her books are outstandingly written. I think her well of knowledge is deep, enlightening and empowering for you to move on. I am happy she understands the dynamics of a toxic person. I can now see why couple counseling was ineffective without her. I am happy to have my head above water now instead of being gaslit. Kaizen For Couples is a spectacular book to read for all relationships. It can put you in the right position to grow in a healthy relationships. Well, listen up and learn. Keep listening and apply. Your life can become better. Her insights become yours! CMB ♥️
dr stormy

Such powerful empowering Information

Dr Shaler is a gem! She is so knowledgeable and well-spoken on the toxic effects these sorts of persons have in our life and love! Clear and concise tools to help you begin to recognize and then clear out the toxic!
nahhhhhBro

Great advice

Not sure how I found this podcast but she’s saving me from feeling at fault for so many things... the episode on reactive abuse made everything so clear. Thank you for making such great content!
Whytli

Thank you.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insights with the world! You are provided much needed awareness and education around taboo topics. I wish everyone in my life would listen to your show. Keep up the wonderful work!!
iFinallyUnderstand

The most helpful podcast yet

I wish I could leave headphones on all day to hear your calming voice and valuable teachings. I am new to your podcast and desperately listening and learning. Thank you for offering something that seems different and more HEALTHY than the approach of other podcasts I’ve listened to in the field of toxic relationships. You have a wonderful way of explaining things. I can’t wait to learn more from you and put your words of wisdom into practice.
Pilotswife94

Great podcast!

Thanks for offering this valuable resource. I have learned so much.. I look fwd to each podcast and to checking out her books and other resources.
miacimu

Terrible

I’m appalled. Dr shaler is an awful host.
elikqitie

Practical approach to empowerment

Save your sanity breaks through the craziness and gives a practical approach to self-empowerment. Rhoberta imparts great ideas and knowledge to remove the craziness from your life and to recognize the traps we can fall into with a relationship
xnfmly

Toxic relationships take different forms

This podcast is shining a light on this often dark and misunderstood topic. There is a message of hope that people going through a tough time can hold on to.
Layla loves lemons

Great guidance for understanding

Came across this podcast while going through a very emotional and confusing time, and it’s been super helpful in highlighting lots of things that got overshadowed by past trauma that I couldn’t see clearly. It really feels like someone understands and can guide you to see more transparently and get through the difficult time in a toxic relationship. So thank you!
Diann Wingert

Eyes wide open

This podcast exposes the behavior of narcissists ( “hijackals”) and helps the listener see both the behavior & what’s driving it. But what’s even more important is that Rhoberta also exposes all the ways that those who are the partner, employee, sibling or adult child of the hijackal unconsciously enable them. She absolutely nails the balance between being clear & direct, while also being accepting & compassionate. A bingeworthy podcast for anyone dealing narcissistic behavior of someone close to them.
FillyG

Powerful Conversations

Toxic relationships can leave lasting damage in our lives. Thank goodness this podcast provides a safe space for untangling and recreating. Amazing interviews and transformative information. Thank you Dr. Shaler!
LPVic

Episode 142❤️!

Wow! This episode helped me paint the entire picture that I’ve had a hard time trying to put my finger on all these years... I’ve been listening now since June and your messages have helped me so very much! I did leave him finally in June and I am trying to establish my life and career again- it is starting over- but the peace in my soul from understanding I’m not crazy ( as he told me I was) and I’m not alone in the comfort I felt staying in that horrible trap he had me caught up in... its all so amazing to me... I’m finally proud of myself for making a strong and correct decision... listen to your heart ... it’s speaking to you! Thank you Dr. for your wise words and guidance!
innergameamber

Noticing the Facial Signs - a PTSD survivor Amber DeAnn

I loved the science of facial coding recognition introduced by Dr Hill. I intuitively used it in my childhood to escape a beating from my anger addicted Mom. The facial change was a shift in her energy field which opening the curtain to her feelings and helped me get away. It is a life saving technique for everyone living with an abusive person. Thanks so much Rhoberta and Dr Hill for sharing your knowledge.
Debbie Lynn Grace

Expert Advice For Anyone Suffering In A Toxic Relationship

When you are suffering in a toxic relationship it is hard to see the forest through the trees and salvage your courage to make sense of what has happened and what to do about it. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives not only real practical advice on how to move forward in your life but also how to recognize the signs when you are being covertly and subtly emotionally abused, gaslighted and manipulated in a toxic relationship. This is a really valuable relationship podcast.
KatHay67

Transforming

The Save Your Sanity Podcasts by Rhoberta Shaler are transforming my life. I’ve never come across such valuable and accurate information. I feel like Rhoberta is speaking directly to me.
MsTonya Speaks

Much Needed Podcast

Unhealthy relationships are a struggle to break free from. Oftentimes, many can believe it's easy to walk away and move on but the reality is that is isn't as easy as it sounds. This podcast helps ease that shame and guilt of having difficulty as well as provide tangible advice on saving your sanity.
MelRob1997

Inspiring and Informative

Roberta is lovely and delightful! She delivers wonderful guests and content!
Dr. Atousa

Wise and deliberate

Love your energy, your wisdom and your approach towards questioning the guests and the rich dialogue. Can’t wait to listen to more episodes Dr. Atousa Mahdavi
Jenjen8282

What a great podcast!

People in toxic relationships can often feel very isolated and alone, having a podcast that allows people to not feel alone and provides and understanding, confidence and encouragement to people to get out of the toxic relationship is a breath of fresh air. Thank you!
Cvmg

Must hear Podcast!!!

If you are a women who finds yourself facing a situation of financial infidelity in your marriage, this is a podcast you must listen too. Hear about the dysfunctional relationships that lead you into being manipulated. Many times these manipulators abuse you in many ways. I recommend my clients listen to this and open their eyes to the fact they have been a victim to what Dr. Shaler calls a “Hijackals”. Victoria Lowell , CDFAtm Founder and President Empowered Worth International Bestselling Author, Financial Advocate and Coach
drheatherh2

Can feel the love and support through the air!

This is the first episode I’ve listened to and find Rhoberta’s voice mesmerizing and so gentle with a giving that is very unusual. Very very powerful. I will be back for more! Thank you.
Emerald GreenForest

Rhoberta is Brilliant & so is this show!

You’ll be amazed by the depth of information that Rhoberta has to offer around relationships with difficult people. I love her years of experience as well as her great devotion to helping people heal. Thank you for this incredible act of service to the world thru this podcast & your body of work.
Michele PW

Such a helpful resource

Sometimes the best thing you can do is ground yourself when things are crazy all around you. That’s what this podcast is, a bit of sanity.
claraannee

Perfect timing.

Her advice on hijackals and how to leave and stay courageous is exactly what I needed to hear today. Can’t wait to listen to more
Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC, FDN

Great podcast!

Great Episode- clear, straight forward and to the point. Down to earth, practical tell-tale signs as to how to identify a “highjackal”, as well as how to deal with one. Lots to learn- definitely worth a listen.
Dr. Aaron L. Smith

Great approach to sensitive topics

I am a fan of Dr. Shaler's show as she knows how to help her audience dead with sensitive issues that are seen far too often. Her guidance is an inspiration that no matter what their circumstances are, they can get through it. Highly recommend!
The Savvy Shrink

The Savvy Shrink

Empowering and helpful podcast for people navigating the world of relationships - great info and support !
a-tribe

How to stop second guessing myself

She spoke truth and it rang true in the depth of my soul. I was not prepared to hear such solid truth. It was refreshing to have truth resinate and revive me! I highly recommend her straight talk approach! --April Tribe Giauque
S Sayler

Save Your Sanity is very helpful with those nagging relationship questions!

Enjoying all the great topics such as boundary issues, how to know if...tips, dealing with toxic people etc. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD brings insight into what to look for, and what to do about all sort of relationship issues! Thank you Dr. Shaler for sharing your wisdom.